Let’s carry on where we left things.

So some people would say that the problem with sex, and especially the church and sex, is that it has been hushed up. That’s great, but I feel like people have been saying this all my life. In fact, I would say that sex talk is pretty common. I think it would be silly of us to say that the issue is that we don’t talk about it enough, but rather I would say that the wrong people are talking about it, and the way it is being spoken about is incorrect as well.

Now…

Me saying that is not to say that I am the right person to talk about it. Nor am I going to say that I have it all figured out and know exactly what to say about sex.

To some I would not be experienced enough, and have not fully “explored” and experience all aspects of sex.

To some, from the moment I kissed a girl as a kid, my perspective was tainted and misguided.

It would be impossible to satisfy everyone. So I’ll satisfy myself and my inner convictions.

With that out of the way, the reason things are as messed up as they are, in my opinion, is not that sex has been hushed up. Rather, I would put forward that because we messed up, society decided to hush up about it.

Because we messed up, society decided to hush up about it.

I said at the end of the last part.

People say:

“Sex is nothing to be ashamed of.”

And it is true.

There isn’t anything to be ashamed of in the fact that we as a race reproduce in a certain way, nor in the fact that people receive pleasure from it. I don’t think most Christians would disagree with that. Sex itself is not bad. The pleasure is not bad either. I already know some people are getting tense, but stick with me. If anyone would argue that Christianity says sex itself is bad, I would have to say Christianity contradicts them.

Sex itself is not bad. The pleasure is not bad either.

But back to the statement.

“Sex is nothing to be ashamed of.”

When people say this, are they really looking at it in the way we discussed earlier? Or are they really saying something else?

“The way sex is discussed, and conducted in today’s society is perfectly normal, and not something we should shy away from.”

That is what I think a lot of people mean. And if they do, I disagree. I’d argue there’s a lot to be ashamed of, but not necessarily anything to shame people for.

Though I say there is something to be ashamed of, I myself don’t believe I have been given the authority to shame someone for it. If someone were to hear my thoughts and opinions, and began to reflect and look at themselves, I would only see my words as a trigger, rather than being a marksman aiming to take them down.

I apologise for the disclaimers and explanation. I’d rather be attentive than apologetic.

Carrying on.

I’ll say it plainly.

I think society is a mess.

But I don’t think you, or me, are individually responsible for our current situation.

Look around, we are surrounded by propaganda that is on the side of unchastity.

I’ll give you an example.

I downloaded tiktok the other day.

My friend said he wants to be able to send me funny stuff.

Cool.

I’m on the app.

And I’m scrolling.

And a few things were extremely common:

Dude’s talking about no fap (a discussion for another time).

Fortnite with jokes in the background.

Dances.

People reacting to people.

Topless guys.

And exposed chests.

I’m gonna stop there. But I was surprised. Once I started following normal people and normal accounts, that main page changed and it began to be full of standard content and humour.

But it got me thinking…

Is the default today, sex?

Is that the point we start at and then work from?

Like I get why people do it. Show certain body parts and you’re guaranteed to get views. Even on some of the Christian videos. It may be a dance, or just a few poses, that are there to catch the attention of the swiper, with a bit of a sermon in the background. I guess it works. It’s interesting.

Anyways, it’s all around us.

There are people who want to keep our sexual instinct burning and inflamed, so that they can take our time and our money.

Here’s a quote:

“A man with an obsession is a man who has very little sales-resistance.”

It’s a curse.

And to be honest, the originators of such tactics are likely dead, so this isn’t a call to take up arms against them, but rather, it’s a call to make you think.

What is your perception of sex?

Where does it even come from?

Do you know how often you see something sexual?

It may be a brief add on the side of a video. It may be a pop up when trying to watch anime. It may be a quick topic in the middle of a podcast episode.

How often do you encounter sex? And how do you feel about it?

To many of us, it’s only natural. People enjoy sex, and so they want to talk about it, watch it, listen to songs about it. We slowly become obsessed with it. And I am complicit to this too. It’s something I know in myself that I need to deal with.

Just because I am not engaging in sex, it doesn’t mean I’m free from it.

It’s all around. Some would say we’re all sex craved. We’re sick and need to be cured. But before we can be cured, we must want to be cured.

Most of us believe we want the cure, but do we really?

I’ll end this part with this:

“A famous Christian long ago told us that when he was a young man he prayed constantly for chastity; but years later he realised that while his lips had been saying, ‘Oh Lord, make me chaste,’ his heart had been secretly adding, ‘But please don’t do it just yet.’

Many of us will love to one day be free from our desires. But that’s the issue. One day.

Are we willing to be cured today?

Or will we miss this sex-filled culture?

I’m just thinking out loud, but it’s something that I think we all need to think about.

Anyways, enjoy your week.

Stay safe.

Stay blessed.

Show some love.

And make an impact.

God Bless